JUGGLING WITH STUDIES, WORK, BLOGGING & BEING A MUM


I've gotten so many questions about how I've been holding up with the hectic day-to-day routine I've had the past month and a half so I decided to open up a bit what I've learned during this time. The truth is, it's been hard and it's been easier than I thought it would have been. It's an odd way to see this, don't you think? The thing is, there are so many things I've had to let go, so many compromises I've had to make and so many things I've needed to do even though I haven't felt like doing so.

So here we go, here's how I'm holding up and what I've learned.

It's hard, but it isn't as hard as I thought it would have been
There have been days I've wanted to quit it all. Then again, when changing the perspective I've been so lucky being able to fix up my schedule so this whole thing is working perfectly. I've got the most amazing husband in the world who tells me it's all going to be okay. He's also the one who stops me from doing something if he sees there's too much stuff on my plate.
Even though there are a few days in a week when I'm at home late in the evening, it's only a few days a week. For the first few weeks the mum guilt was pretty much present but as noticing that it really doesn't affect D in any way, it's turned out to be a bit easier.

D's going to be okay
One of the biggest concerns I had when I decided to combine work with uni was the fact that I wasn't sure how D would get along with it. There are days when he's been walking around the apartment looking for me when I've been at work and it's been one of the most heartbreaking things I've heard during the past month and a half. But then again, he's been completely okay with the fact when J has told him that mummy is at work. He's been dealing with "daddy & son" days perfectly, which is so so amazing. He's going to be okay.

A synchronised calendar is a key
I've got a MacBook and an iPhone. Their calendars fit perfectly together and I love the fact that I can move things around so easily with my laptop. The calendar on my laptop is essential. It includes everything and I've colour coded everything. Literally, everything. I've got everything marked down and it has been reducing my stress so much. It's insane what being extremely organised can do especially in situations like mine.

Family time is family time, blogging time is blogging time, at work I'm at work and in uni, I'm in uni
Making clear boundaries between everything has been a massive help. When I leave work, I leave everything that happens there then and deal with it when I'm back at work again. Same with uni, except for the homework. The evenings, after D has gone to bed I've divided in three - yoga, uni work and blogging stuff. On Sundays, I take an occasional blog and Instagram pictures but otherwise all the rest of my free time is devoted to my family. And when I'm with the family, my phone is in another room so I won't be distracted by any messages or notifications from all the other places mentioned above.

I've learned to say no to things
There are a bunch of student events (aka parties) in the middle of the week, I could do extra hours at work and yet I've learned to recognise when I've got too much in my calendar and say no. It's been one of the hardest things I've had to learn and also one of the most rewarding things I've learnt.


I've learned that I don't owe an explanation to anyone
Why I decided to work and go to uni at the same time? Not that it's anyone's business but I love being independent with my own finances. Why did I have children if I don't want to spend time with them? I spend all my free time with D and place everything else as a second priority in my life. Thing is though, I'm more than just a mum and I deserve to get an education, build a career and be a mum at the same time. One of those things won't shut another one down. The thing is, people who tend to think about these things straight to my face or behind my back are usually the ones who think mums should stay at home until their kids go to school, the ones who think mums should be mums for the rest of their lives. Yes, mum's are mum's for the rest of their lives but they can be so much more too. Children won't end women's lives. Just saying.





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  1. I love reading posts like this, makes me feel better about how busy I am because I'm definitely not the busiest! It's so nice to hear that you're managing to balance it all :))

    Megan | https://pixieskiesblog.wordpress.com/

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