10+1 THINGS I’VE LEARNED IN A YEAR WITH A BABY


I can not believe that my beautiful little baby boy is going to become this one-year-old toddler in just four days from today. It's actually freaking ridiculous how fast the time has gone. I mean, where the fuck has the time gone? Seriously? I can remember being pregnant, seeing amazing fellow bloggers like Maisie & Lyndsay having their babies around the same time D was born. All of our babies are one already, TJ has been one since 2nd of February & Violet is only a couple of days older than D. Ladies, where the F did this year go?
Anyhow, I'm here today writing for you about 10 things I've learned in a year with a baby, I hope it's something you can relate to & I hope it's something that doesn't freak you out.

BABIES NEED ROUTINES
They don't know whether it's a day or a night. They don't know any basic information about how human life works, so you are there as a parent to teach them all that stuff. The amount of information you need to teach to them - night time routine from the very beginning, just so things are easier for the long haul. When they're a bit older, you take a nap routine in (which we might have accidentally mastered by now). You're teaching them to eat food. An actual food and when they're old enough to sit in their high chair, with their own spoon, the food will be everywhere.

BABIES ARE THE MESSIEST THINGS ON EARTH
I don't consider myself as a tidy person, or well - I didn't consider myself as a tidy person. 99% of the time our home looked like after a hurricane when there was just the two of us, but holy fuck what a baby who has just learned to move around the apartment can do. There are toys everywhere, opened kitchen cabins, soil from the plants all around the floors. In the middle of that mess, sits an adorable pre-toddler smiling and showing off that soil he had just picked up from the plant holder, he proudly keeps it in his hand, smiles and pushes it all into his mouth. Which will bring us to the next one...

BABIES NEED BOUNDARIES
They will learn a word no. It's probably the first word they know the meaning of - no means that they can't do things what they're about to do. D behaves very nicely though, it's a rare scenario when he actually does something naughty, but he knows what no means and shows it. All the tantrums and meltdowns because I didn't allow him to put his fingers or lick the power outlet & when I didn't let him throw all the stuff out of our garbage bag in the kitchen & when I didn't allow him to take my phone. But after repeating a few times, after few meltdowns and explanations why he can't do some things he wants to do, he's forgotten them pretty quickly and now knows that those are things he's not allowed to do. Though, when he's in a bad mood or just plain tired he pushes his boundaries. A lot.

THEIR DIAPERS GET SMELLY
Yes, I'm including the shit diapers in this post. I conveniently moved out when my little brother started eating solid food, which means that if I thought to change his first diapers was disgusting the diapers they fill after getting into the solid food are the next level disgusting. There have been a few times I have wanted to pass out in our bathroom because of the smell. And trust me, not the baby food - but when they're getting used to the same food we adults are eating, it gets worse.
Tip: breathe through your mouth & don't look at the diaper.

THEY WANT TO BE INVOLVED IN ANYTHING
From making dinner to you taking a dump. There's nothing in between, they need to be there, see how everything goes and sometimes even touch everything you touch. (That sounded disturbing after the first sentence.) D helps me with everything from filling the dish machine, vacuuming, washing floors, making dinner to writing blog posts. That's why I've been trying to make all that when he's napping, two birds killed with one stone? I love that he helps, but nowadays he doesn't just watch, he also needs to touch.

THEY START FROM NOT LETTING YOU EAT, TO EATING EVERYTHING FROM YOUR PLATE
During the first months, I wasn't allowed to eat in his opinion. If I was eating, it was the worst thing on Earth. In the newborn days, he started screaming like a maniac. When he got a bit older he yelled at me and stared me with a stinky eye. (No wonder I've lost so much weight?)
Now, he comes to my plate. If he sees me eating something, he's there in a blink of an eye losing his shit if I don't share my food with him. If all of us are eating at the same time, this problem doesn't exist but oh boy if I happen to eat something after he's eaten...

THEY'RE FREAKING HILARIOUS
Babies are hilarious. From newborn face expressions to almost one-year-old's sounds. They make hilarious faces, sounds and well, stuff. It's fun to see how they learn new things, try new things, taste new things and are so fascinated by everything. Even their tantrums are hilarious.

I HAVE BECOME A FORTUNETELLER
It's funny how you get to know your kid. Most of the times you know what's wrong, you know what bugs them and you know what they want. It's an indescribable feeling, but you know if you're a mum. I can't wait for him to be a 2-year-old who gets a proper meltdown because I gave him a wrong cup because so far, this has been a bit too easy.

BABIES AREN'T ROCKET SCIENCE
Okay, this is something that's the most personal for me, as I've been hanging out a lot with a baby when my brother was a baby. So for me, most of these things weren't exactly new and I'm pretty happy about it because I would have been so lost without the time I've spent with my younger brother. It felt like shit back then, but I'm actually thankful for that.

+ THERE ARE A BUNCH OF PEOPLE WHO ARE "THE EXPERTS" OF PARENTING AFTER YOU HAVE A BABY
You do you. You're the best parent for your kids & you do you. No matter what your mum says, what your in-laws say. They might have some good advice, but the fact that it's your baby. You raise the baby the way you feel is good for you and the baby. It's not like they pushed it out of your womb.





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8 comments

  1. Omg I REALLY don't know where this past year has gone! And now all our babies are one (almost) eek!

    These are all so true haha, especially that they're hilarious, they really are!

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  2. It must be wonderful to see everything new D learns everyday - and try to keep up with him when he’s exploring the world, including the flower pots and kitchen cupboards :) Lovely post Jasmin!

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  3. Wow a year old already it feels like you were just pregnant and now I have an 18 week old where is the time going D=

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  4. Aw! Well done on keeping that cutie healthy and happy for his first year of life! Kids are so funny...and challenging. I've sat and just observed how life has changed for those around me who have had kids. I'm prepared for the unexpected...and yet so unprepared at the same time. Lol.

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  5. A year? Already? Time really flies! Happy Birthday to this little cutie! I think kids give us the most important lessons in our lives, a person is never the same when becomes mother or father.

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  6. Happy birthday to your sweet boy! I think your last point is the most important and so many new moms get caught up in trying to please everyone and meet ridiculous standards set by social media. You gotta do you!

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  7. Interesting post, Jasmin! The year has gone by super fast and it seems that you've learned a lot during it. I can really relate to being messy time to time but that really sounds like and actual big mess the baby is doing haha, not just clothes in not-so-neat pile kind of mess.

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  8. Wow how adorable you and your baby :') I can't wait to have one of my own. But everyone always so "yes, you can." haaha

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