2017/10/29

GOING BACK TO WORK NEXT MONTH?


18.11.2017
That is the official day when my maternity leave ends. Will I go back to work? That's something I decided before D was even born and now I know I made the right decision.


I'm not the type of a person who can dump their kids to the nursery at the age of 9 months. Gosh, that came out rough way. What I mean, is that I can't do so but I'm okay with the fact that there are people who can whether it's depending on the money situation or something else. It's personal and it's everyone's own choice. So D is not going to the nursery and I am not going back to work next month. Even though, I've been thinking about it a lot. I'm struggling with the money and I will be struggling even more until I decide to return back to work.
At this point, I should probably explain where my money will come from in the future:

HOME CARE SUBSIDY
= You can stay home with the kid until the kid is three years old. 
The government will give you 338,34€/month. 

That was everything explained in a super simple way. In a nutshell, I'm going to be broke by my own choice. At first, I was thinking about returning back when my maternity allowance will end, which is the same day when my maternity leave ends. Then I realised that I don't want to. I don't want my kid to go to the nursery when he can't say words or walk. So I decided that I'll go back to work when D is around 1,5 years old so he can express himself better and for fuck's sake, move from place A to B.

Some of Finns stay home with their kids until they're three because they don't trust the system. They believe that group sizes are way too large and there are not enough people to take care of their kids. That's not the reason behind my decision, the reason is basically one paragraph above this. I trust Finnish education system 85%, after all - we've got smart kids, great teachers and everyone keeps telling me how we have the best education system in the world. I don't think it's completely BS.

Also, I decided not to go to work next month because of my surgery. I'm having a quite large surgery, to be exact and it will demand me to stay home for one month for sick leave. Otherwise, two weeks would have been enough, but the type of the surgery and the type of my work don't match so a month it is. I can't also lift my baby for one whole month, so I'm going to need plenty of help from a bunch of people at one point. My surgery is supposed to be before Christmas, so there's no point for me to return to work for a couple of days and then say goodbyes and leave for sick leave.
I don't have the exact date for the surgery yet and that's the reason I've been bulk writing blog posts for the rest of the year like a maniac. I'll get back to the nature of my surgery and reasons behind it in February, don't worry guys - I'm okay. It's nothing serious. Or well, it is but it isn't.

I've been thinking this a lot lately and that's why I decided to write about this, I know that many of my relatives and friends on the other side of the screen have been wondering what's going on with me and will I return. Also, this gave me a chance to clear my head a bit.

Can't remember when was the last time I wrote this serious blog post, though!





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19 comments:

  1. Great post, It's great that you knew that you didn't want to return to work & are able to make that happen, thats something I worry about when we decide to have kids is not wanting to return & working out how we can afford to do that x

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    1. It's going to be a tough half a year but I'm sure we'll manage!

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  2. This is a great post, its inspiring to see you doing what you think is best for you and your baby! x

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  3. I think you made right decision and I think I would always do the same. Thanks for sharing with us all these reasons Jassy, this is your choice and no one has right to judge you because of that. I hope that surgery is not that serious. Stay strond.

    Lots of love,
    Zana

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    1. GOSH! I forgot to fix that! Wrote this post ages ago when I had no clue when my breast reduction surgery was going to be and forgot to read this through.... Fuck.

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  4. Loved reading this! Awesome that you're able to recognize what's best for you!

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  5. I think these sensitive early years in a child'd life are so important for mother and for them also. So, yes, if you want to stay with your baby, it would be the best decision for you.

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  6. If I become a mom, I can’t imagine myself leaving my tiny baby and go to work. Its really the most heartbreaking thing a mom would have to endure. I know a friend who can’t stop crying at work the first day she went back and her manager decided to let her leave and go home. Thanks for sharing!

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  7. This is a tough decision but choosing time with the kids is always the right choice plus he will be much older at 1.5 I took my daughter to daycare at 1.8. In my country maternity is 3 months only which is something I never experienced because I work for myself. I am sure the decision to go back to work or not is a very tough one. It will work out well for you.

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    1. Exactly! Don't want him to be too young to get in there!

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  8. Loved this post! It's super informative and gives off a completely different perspective on such a hard decision.

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  9. This is such an inspiring post - I really love how committed you are and I really feel your love for your little boy when reading this post!
    https://elephantsvoice.blog/2017/10/27/11-chats-with-charlie/

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    1. Haha, I'm happy to hear you enjoyed the post :-)

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  10. Aww I love this post. That's great they'll give you something until 3 years old.. As a stay at home mum in the UK I get nothing extra to support us whilst I look after him - we just get the statutory £82ish everyone gets a month. It's horrible!! Doesn't help that childcare is SO expensive... I wouldn't be able to afford it even if I did go back to work! Whatever you decide is 100% best for D, as you know him best after all <3

    Sarah | www.justbuttonsblog.co.uk

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