2017/09/13

I DID NOT WANT TO HAVE CHILDREN


Children are funny creatures, aren't they? Before I'll continue writing this post, I want to make clear that even though I didn't want to have children before - I would not change a thing that has happened to me during past couple of years. Children, if you want to put it like this - are a blessing. You don't make children, you have them.

I've always known I didn't want to have children. I decided it a long time ago and I basically lived in a belief that they're only a stone hanging on your leg. I also knew I didn't want to bring any innocent creatures in this hell we call the world and I got super anxious each time one of my ex-boyfriends told me how we were going to have x-amount of children in that lovely red house and have two dogs with the deal.

WHAT CHANGED ME? 
My husband did. He was the first person who was able to speak me such things like having children or well, a pet together and I didn't want to take the first exit out in this relationship highway. For our first 4 years of being together, I still didn't want to have children. Then it hit me, the baby-fever.
I saw babies everywhere. I still didn't think they were cute, but I started juggling the idea of children in my head. What if I would want one?
We started trying back in 2015 and after the first miscarriage, I was 100% sure I was made to be a mum, in a way. But that's for another post. (I keep postponing this, don't I?)


Now I have the most beautiful baby boy, with such an amazing personality. It's funny, how finding the one can change the way of seeing things. I'm not saying that everyone who doesn't want to have children should find the one to make them with because that's not always the case. It's okay to never have children.
I don't regret I had a kid. I'm so in love with that tiny creature that I'm able to forget that part of me who never wanted to have children. It was a rough journey, but he's been here for almost 6 months now and I could not be more thankful for him.





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38 comments:

  1. What a fantastic and lovely pictures both of you. I can not agreed more, that kids is the cutest creature on this planet but I still not lucky yet to have it. But I'm pretty sure one day, God will send me one. God bless you both.

    Kintan XO,
    http://kintanfashion.blogspot.com

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    1. I'm absolutely sure you'll have one some day <3 you'd be an amazing mother!

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  2. When I was with my ex I never wanted children either but when I met Mr M we started trying after a few months. I do think it can depend on the person you are with as subconsciously you probably know that they either won't make a good father or you don't want to be tied to that person for the rest of your life. Unfortunately it has taken us over 13 years to finally get pregnant and we can't wait for when they finally arrive

    The Life of Dee

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    1. 13 years is an awful long time. For me those two years felt endless. Can't even imagine how rough it has been to you both. I'm sending you lots and lots of love<3 and congratulations!
      I think something subsconcious was going on there back then. When someone mentioned starting a family I was ready to break it off at that very second :-D

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  3. Beautiful post Jasmine, it's amazing isn't how something or someone can make you change your mind on something that you hadn't thought possible. I have always wanted to have kids but I have many friends who felt the same way until they had their child and met that person that they wanted to experience that with x

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    1. It's weird what one person can do!

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  4. Fantastic photos and I really admire your honesty and openness!
    https://elephantsvoice.blog/2017/09/13/dear-freshers/

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  5. Such a lovely, honest and personal post!
    Sarah x
    saraheliza.co.uk

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  6. This is so sweet honestly. It is so beautiful the way someone changed your mind and now you are so happy about your son. I honestly feel the same way as you, I do not want kids, but who knows maybe someone one day would change my mind!
    Love
    Pili
    To Read with Tea

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    1. Maybe, maybe not :-) Whatever happens in your future, I believe it's meant to be!

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  7. This is a beautiful post, and I loved seeing your perspective on the whole topic!

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  8. I had a similar experience. Though we don't have any children (yet), my husband was the only one to make me want to put them in the plan. I think it's hard to picture until you finally experience real love with the right person.

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  9. I love this post! So honest and it's great to hear. Personally I have always wanted children, but I know many friends who always said they didn't want and completely changed their mind when they found their partner!!
    a life of a charlotte
    x

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    1. Some change their minds, some don't :-) Happy to hear about your experiences :-)

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  10. This is a lovely, honest post. I do want children, but not anytime soon, I'm happy just being an auntie at the moment.

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    1. Thank you! That sounds lovely :-)

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  11. Aw this is such a lovely story ❤️ It makes me so excited to meet my little one, I can't wait to feel the unconditional love for my boy!
    Much love, Caitylis x x
    www.caitylis.co.uk

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    1. OOH, SOON! Can't wait to hear all about him when he comes around <3

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  12. I have so many friends who are not interested in having kids, and I anxiously await for them to have someone come into their life and change their minds.

    Sondra xx
    prettyfitfoodie.com

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    1. Haha, I hope you're prepared yourself that it might not happen, but I wish you all the best <3

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  13. Such a wonderful story. I've decided not to have children for many reasons. I'm always extremely happy for people who do decide too.

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    1. That's your decision and if it feels right for you, I'm happy for you :-)

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  14. Eee such a lovely post. Now you have such a cute little man in your life! I hope our babies get to meet each other one day - and of course we meet one day too!!

    Sarah | www.justbuttonsblog.co.uk

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    1. We should definitely meet one day!

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  15. Such a beautiful story! Your husband is a great man and now you have a wonderful family even if you never though about it in the first place. Wish you all the happiness!

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  16. Congratulations on your beautiful boy. Even if you didn't want one to begin with, I bet you cannot imagine a life without him now. Beautiful post.

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    1. I sure can’t! Thank you :-)

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  17. AHHHH this is so interesting to read! I've always wanted to be a mom, but my husband always thought he didn't want kids! Now that we're married, he's flipped a switch and definitely wants kids (in a few years!).

    Lovely post, congrats on your sweet baby boy! <3

    xo
    Srna
    www.acrushonlife.com

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    1. Haha that’s amazing to hear sweety!

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  18. Such an honest post, and strange how people can change their mind depending on the circumstances. For myself, I am dead set against having children a lot of people say I will change my mind, but we will see!

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    1. It’s so weird to be honest :D

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  19. This is a really great post it's amazing that you changed your mind and that you found someone who made you so happy x

    Kayleigh Zara 🌿www.kayleighzaraa.com

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