2017/05/12

10 THINGS I’VE LEARNED IN 3 MONTHS AFTER HAVING A BABY


Dino is going to be three months old this month. 
These three months have been the most interesting three months in my life. Even though I was taking a lot of care of my little brother when he was a newborn, there's still some new things I've learned about taking care of the baby and about myself as well. All the diaper changes, bottle feeds, bathing and how to put a baby to sleep got from the back of my mind like a lightning at the very second we got home with the baby. Now when I'm thinking about it, I'm quite happy I had to look after my brother as much as I needed to back in the days, because I probably would have been completely lost with the whole baby thing. Anyhow, there are still few things I've learned and I'm going to talk about those. 


I'm not in this alone. 
- J has been a massive help throughout these three months.
I sure as hell am not taking him for granted because I'm
in a super lucky situation where the father actually spends time
with the baby, so I can do stuff on my own.

Night feeds are manageable.
- We're in a lucky situation where our baby wakes up
only twice a night. That's pretty effin' amazing, to be honest. 

I can go for two weeks without a problem waking up twice a night. 
- My migraine is the worst. I've noticed, that I can go for two
full weeks waking up twice a night and then the lovely friend of
mine called migraine steps into the picture. Thank goodness J
is looking after Dino at times so I can sleep.

The baby is a mental terrorist. 
- I'm not meaning anything bad with my choice of word but hey,
think about it. Babies won't let you sleep, they won't let you eat,
they won't let you talk on the phone, they won't let you drink
your cup of coffee, you're not able to go to bathroom alone and
the best thing of them all, they can start to scream like maniacs
and you've got no clue why they're screaming. Why so? 
Well, he's on your lap, you just fed him, changed his diaper
and he's got clean clothes on. He just pulls a tantrum. 

The fresh baby smell doesn't last for two months. 
- I don't know, maybe it's because of baths, but that fresh
baby smell disappears surprisingly quick. I kind of miss
that smell. Why there's not a fragrance called "fresh baby?"


You can cook, but you can't eat. 
- Dino sleeps when I'm cooking, but at the very second we both
sit to a kitchen table, he wakes up and craves attention. If we're both
at home, we can leave him to sleep on our bed to a different room where
we're at and he's fine but at the very second we both imagine eating at
the same time he wakes up and pulls a full tantrum mode on. 

Babies are emotional roller coasters. 
- They are. They can be super happy now but in a couple of
seconds the milk bottle inside his mind falls down the table and nothing's
going to be alright and the other way around. 

Babies have the funniest facial expressions ever. 
- I had this weird memory how babies are a bit boring.
Well, they are not. They've got the funniest facial expressions ever and
I've laughed at my baby more than I care to admit. He's just freaking hilarious! 

Fed is best. 
- No matter where the milk comes from, breast or bottle - it doesn't
make me less of a mum than I am. Read our breastfeeding story
from here.

Babies need routines. 
- Our bedtime routine is the best thing we've created.
Baby falls asleep like an angel & we have our own time in the
evenings. 

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82 comments:

  1. Isn't it crazy how much they change in only 3 months. I was a stickler for routine and it paid off. Xx

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    1. Sticking to the routine really pays out!

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  2. Oh my goodness, I miss the fresh baby smell. Where does it go?! Just thinking about it makes me a bit broody again. Babies definitely ARE mental terrorists, it's incredible the lengths they'll push you too and then just when you're about to break they pull one of those funny faces and all is forgiven. Great list x

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    1. Haha exactly! I wish that smell could be bottled :D

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  3. You're doing great!! Well done for making 3 months. (He'll be 18 in no time :p)

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    1. NAAAAAH, he's my baby forever! Wait what :D

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  4. Babies grow so fast. So much must change in only 3 months, it's absolutely crazy! I am not having a baby anytime soon but I will remember this list when I do! Thanks for sharing! xx corinne

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    1. They change a lot in such short amount of time... :D so much that it's kind of hard to keep up, to be honest.

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  5. I feel you about the eating part. It was the same for me every time I was ready to eat. She would wake up.Luckely my husband always helping me with her.

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    1. Haha, yeah babies won't let you eat :D wondering why though, they don't seem to understand that we had more energy to play with them if they let us eat :D

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  6. Fed definitely is best! You do whatever you can to keep them happy!

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  7. I use to love the nighttime feeds, it was our quiet time 💕

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  8. They really do change so much in those first few months! A bedtime routine I totoally agree is just the best thing to do as soon as possible!

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    1. Absolutely! The routine has helped us so much & me and my husband get some adult time on the evenings haha :D

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  9. Great list, it's amazing how quickly time can pass. My little boy just turned one, I definitely miss the newborn smell and when he wasn't able to cause chaos! I suffer with migraines too so can really sympathise.

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    1. Can't wait for the chaos this one creates when he starts to move around haha :D

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  10. My little one is now 7 weeks old so I know everything you've just described! It's such a big life change isn't it!

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    1. HUGE. Huge life change haha :D

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  11. Oh that fresh baby smell! I have a little one 3 months too and makes me sad that it's gone! Xx

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    1. I can't believe it's gone that fast ! :(

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  12. A great post. Fed is definitely best, although you are right perhaps this doesn't always apply to mummy... So glad you are enjoying being a mum.

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    1. I actually do. I didn't enjoy the road that took me here (pregnancy), but being a mum is fun.

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  13. Isn't it funny how they want your attention at the exact moment you need to be doing something?! My little one wasn't too bad when he was little but now, at 11 months, it's like the terrible twos have come early! I completely agree about bedtime routine too.

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    1. YES! I think they're built that way :D

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  14. Babies really are mental terrorists haha!And the You can cook, but you can't eat, is so true!! x

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    1. I think it's the smell.. They smell the food & they know it's not for them and who's left? Mum & dad... Wait, wait for a second... THEY'RE NOT STARING AT ME WHEN I SLEEP, so tantrum it is :D

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  15. The cook but eat one is so true! I swear they do it on purpose!!!

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    1. They have this built in detector... They're asleep but they know when you're not around them. :D

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  16. "You can cook, but you can't eat"
    My sister in law told me that for the first six months of my nephew's life she didn't have a hot meal or a cup of coffee that didn't go cold before she could drink it. She also became an expert at eating/drinking with one hand which is a good skill :) Great post

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    1. Haha, thank you! I bet that'll become one of my skills as well :D

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  17. I remember that time still and my son is now 20. It's hard work but also the best time in the world!

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    1. Ah exactly! It'll all pay off some day :-)

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  18. You're amazing Mum. Its very interesting story of your baby Dino, how he's growing so fast and i had so much fun to read it.
    Kintan XO/http://kintanfashion.blogspot.com

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    1. Aw thank you Kintan! I'm happy to hear that you enjoyed the post :-)

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  19. Such a great post! You make some very great points! I definitely agree! Especially with the point of cooking but not being able to eat. It's definitely a lot to juggle, but it's all so worth it! 🙂

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  20. Awww...these are things you'll cherish for a long time and even joke about when Dino gets older...babies have the funniest facial expression...especially when they are giggling..Take lots of pictures for him to see when he's grown

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    1. Oh trust me, my camera roll is full of pictures of him haha :D

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  21. Thinking back to our first 3 months it was tough and such a shock to the body with the frequent night feeds. Its amazing how your body can cope and the things you do for your little one!
    Mandy
    http://www.onesliceoflemon.com

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    1. Yeah, woman body is incredible oh my goodness!

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  22. Its so amazing to see how well you are handeling this! You can be really proud of yourself

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  23. Aww, that newborn baby smell, it should be bottled somehow, it's wonderful.
    I had my two 18 months apart and things like eating/finishing a hot drink/going to the toilet by myself were very few!

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  24. This article made me so happy. It's a peek into the life we will soon have. You're doing great and you take the roller coaster very positive!

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    1. HAAH, there are bad days too! I'm happy that you enjoyed this :)

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  25. Well done, it sounds like you have taken Motherhood like a duck to water.

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  26. Such a beautiful post and how precious you and your baby are! Happy Mother's Day!

    Best,
    Rebecca

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    1. Aw, thank you so much Rebecca! :)

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  27. "The baby is a mental terrorist." Hahahaha, noted. ;)

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    1. Hahaha, babies are :D In a way!

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  28. This is such a great list of things about being a new mum. I loved how you described babies as mental terrorists--it's SO true, in the nicest of ways, haha. Great post!

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    1. Thank you Rebekah! I'm happy that you enjoyed the post haha :-)

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  29. Happy mother's day.. Such an adorable post counting your blessings and the way you gotta deal with a baby's tantrums!

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  30. 3 months already! My little one must have had a sixth sense when it came to food in general!

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    1. Hahah, they're built in with that :D wondering where that disappears when they get older :D

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  31. I was the exact same with the two week limit, after two weeks of broken sleep I usually got a migraine but thankfully one night of good rest would set me straight again. And I WISH the new baby smell lasted forever.

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    1. One night can work miracles!

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  32. It's funny how they always know when you are about to eat. My eldest had a talent of knowing when my head had just hit the pillow too!

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  33. A sleep routine in 3 months: well done! I miss the days of tiny baby, I love my children but I feel like they need me less and less (but this is how it's supposed to be ! :( )

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    1. Yeah my mum actually taught me how to get into the routine, few weeks of hard work & then it rolls by itself :D

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  34. Haha! Loved this! The cooking but not eating part is so true! I am so relieved Benjamin is eating food at the same time as us now or I would never eat x

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    1. Oh I can't wait for D to eat by himself and at the same time I don't want him to grow up haha :D

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  35. Both my girls love a routine and it is so important to our little family unit. Totally agree with all these things. I never thought I could deal with little sleep but I survived :) ox

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    1. We've got this superpower to deal with little sleep & survive :D

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  36. I love this post you do not realise how much you actually miss it after 18 months I wish Jess would go back to been that small and having the newborn smell. This post if anything has made me broody but I know i do not want to be held ransom by another mini terrorist yet it might just break me

    Charlotte xx

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    1. Hahah, whenever you feel ready for that again!

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  37. Sleep really affects my migraines too - i actually found though I had far less of them after the kids generally though so it's just about evened out. #littleleaps

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    1. Oh less, that sounds like heaven haha :D

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  38. Congratulations on your new bundle! I have all this to look forward too - but hopefully not too far in the future!

    www.emma-jayne.co.uk

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    1. Hahah :-) whenever you're ready.
      Thank you :-)

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  39. I will be coming back to this post & begging you for advice once I have a little one. Can I do that, please? It's amazing how much you learn and cope with during the first few months. Plus, they say that those first few months are the toughest. I think no.1 fear I would have is like you mentioned, he is fed, changed and held - why is he crying/screaming? You're one amazing mummy!!! <3 Also, just wanted to say a big thanks for being so sweet and supportive on Twitter, gorgeous <3
    xox Nadia
    www.mielandmint.com

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    1. AAAAAAAW THANK YOU <3 and yeah, you can do that :D

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  40. mental terrorist LOL. I'm so glad you and baby are doing well!

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  41. it's funny how little we actually realise that a baby is going to change things until they're here, but they grow up so quickly that you cherish all the moments even the "bad" ones :)

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