2016/03/15

5 REASONS WHY PLANNING A WEDDING IS HORRENDOUS

Planning a wedding is absolutely exhausting. Not physically, but emotionally. It's not all about dancing through the roses. It's freaking horrendous and now I'm going to tell you why.

*picture is from here*

#1 WHAT'S YOUR...?

Every single question you get about your wedding. It's lovely at first but now when there's less than 2 months before the wedding, it's absolutely exhausting to answer all the questions multiple times a day. It's like, why can't I have a day off talking about my wedding or any other weddings? Pretty please. 

#2 WHEN PEOPLE OFFER HELP IN A WRONG WAY

There's nothing wrong about offering the help, it's more than needed. Right way that works for me is to let me know that they're there for us if we needed any help or something.
Wrong way is to tell us what we should do. I know you might think that it's good to give some advice about what the colors should be on the decorations or how my dress should look and should I have a veil or not. Oh, and how I should wear high heels rather than Vans I've picked up especially for the wedding because I don't enjoy walking around in heels.
It feels like the person who wants to tell us what we should do than rather do it in our own way doesn't think we're capable of planning a wedding for almost 100 people.
It's like no, no, no and no. 

#3 WHY SOME PEOPLE AREN'T INVITED?

That's pretty simple. We invited the closest family members and friends. 
It doesn't mean that if there's a family members who have always been invited to all the parties around the world (if it includes your nephews cats sister and her beloved hamster) that we should do so too. No, we're not categorising people by who they are but by how they've been in our lives.
I think it's pretty rude for any family member or friend to ask why someone or themselves aren't invited. Or not so rude, but if they get mad about the fact that they're not invited - that's freaking ridiculous. 

#4 FORGETTING THAT IT'S OUR WEDDING

This is what few unnamed people do so very often that I've decided to avoid these people before the wedding is over. I love the tips that I get but when you say that you prefer more of something we don't have in our wedding, it's freaking annoying. 
Oh, and planning stuff for our wedding without asking us.

#5 HOW PEOPLE LET US KNOW THAT THEY'RE COMING

It says in the invitation that "please inform us if you're coming or not to the wedding by sending a text to number X". How has this worked out? 
How? 
No it doesn't work at all, people will tell for our parents. 
It's not our parents who are planning this wedding, it's us. It's way easier for us that they let us know if they're coming or not - because I have all the lists of people who are invited so I can mark them down. 
I mean why? It says there right in the invitation card. 

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So, when people say that planning the wedding is horrible and emotionally exhausting, it really is. 
Yet so far, wedding is in two months and I still don't stress about it. For me it's just a piece of a paper and the party is for celebrating our love between us with our closest family members and friends. If I say that this is the worst thing I have ever started to - it still doesn't mean that I don't want to get married with the love of my life. It means that the good things always have some bad things in it too, otherwise it wouldn't be so good. 
Two weeks ago I was at the point where I almost decided to cancel the whole party just because of these things that I listed to this post and go to the magistrate with our bridesmaids and best men and cut all the family out of this. 
Now I'm just at the point that whatever anybody says, I couldn't care less. So family, if you're reading this - it's our wedding, our foods, our shoes & our guests - if you're not happy with it, I couldn't give a flying fuck about it. 
Sorry about the language, but that's the way it goes. 

Jasmin

18 comments:

  1. ''It's like, why can't I have a day off talking about my wedding or any other weddings'' - Because we all are secretly bridezillas and absolutely dying of jealousy because you get married. We want to know everything, 'cause we are so excited for you!
    I love the idea of you wearing vans shoes, I think they suit your personality perfectly (as I know you very little though) and that's awesome!
    It's great that you don't stress and that you know that it's your (and I mean both of you) wedding and you do it exactly as you see as the best option.
    I wish you all the best and I hope your day will be perfect! I know it will :-)

    xo Dora

    http://doramarien.blogspot.fi/

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  2. I feel your pain! I helped my brother a lot with his wedding and it really was a headache! The day itself though was 100% worth it though :)

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    1. Hahah can't wait the day to arrive so I can get all of this away from my head haha :D

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  3. I honestly loved planning my wedding! But I totally hear you on the 5th point! Getting all the RSVP's was a nightmare haha!

    Jennifer Ashley
    www.prettylittledetails.ca

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    1. It's not that I don't like planning the wedding, it's more like I don't enjoy how everyone else is behaving like they're the ones who are getting married and planning our party for us :D

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  4. Love the ending!!! its your wedding YASSS!!!!
    thatas so interesting though ive always wanted to be a wedding planner after watching the JLO film but i would be so upset if things failed at least ur at the stage now where you still wanna have the party and have family but your doing things your way!!...cant wait to see the pictures i know your going to blog about it

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    1. Hahah thank you :-) & ofc I'm going to blog about it hahah

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  5. my boyfriend and i both agree we are probably going to do something small and elope or something like that to avoid all of this. congrats on the engagement though :)

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    1. Hahah, going small or big - there still will be someone who ends up stuffing the whole world to his nose and behave like a total douchebag. Thank you Elle :-)

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  6. What a lovely post! Luckily I won't face this problem for a few years because I am only 17, hahaha! Have a nice day Jasmin!

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  7. Congrats!! I am all for small weddings!! I could not go through what you are going through!
    Dora www.bangsbang.com

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  8. Preparation is exhausting and the day itself too. I had though more stress and energy spent on the documents & translations etc than the party itself. In the end, it all worked out and it's nice to look back to that magical day :)

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    1. I'm stilla waiting for that magical day hahah :D

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  9. I think what annoyed me the most is people want to give you opinions when you are not asking and they kind of enforce it on you - so you have to do it.

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